We are very different when it comes to sex. While some couples stick to the basic, vanilla sex, others opt to venture into more dangerous territory, hence rough sex.
Rough sex it’s a sexual release where you can show your brute strength and your lust at the same time. This kind of sex is not something most people talk about easily, but yet, it’s something all of us could enjoy if done the right way.
Pain and pleasure are not so different, in that they both release endorphins. Experiencing sexual pleasure releases endorphins in the same way that spanking does. Endorphins are likely to be released amid experiencing pain in order to soothe the mind. When I say “pain”, I don’t mean necessarily something intense. It all depends on what the two of you are up for. You can be tame, or you can get wild!
People who love rough sex get the more sexual high from the pain they experience than the sexual pleasure they feel. It hurts but you like it, and that’s what makes the whole thing so passionate. For those who enjoy it though, an occasional round of rough sex can increase the passion in a long term relationship.
Some women, however, may be unsure how to approach the subject simply because “nice” girls aren’t supposed to like dirty sex encounters.
If you’re not someone who’s into rough sex, bringing all that aggression into something as romantic as vanilla sex could sound alarming, but don’t worry. This will change once you learn the little nuances of passionate rough sex. You’d never know how powerful you feel or how sexually arousing the act can be until you try it.
Most women need more than vanilla sex. They need excitement, passion, heat, kink, and… rough? Yes, girls like rough sex. But…take care, guys, we don’t want this all the time. Every now and then, a good round of rough sex can make us feel alive. Try to act like a sperm donor volunteer. Somehow, being dominated once in a while with aggression turns a girl on.
First of all, rough sex is best enjoyed by women with a partner they trust. Both of you know each other’s limitations and capabilities, and it’s easy to know where to draw the line.
Exploring some out-of-the-box ways to have sex is a great way to keep things new and fresh. If you and your partner are going the way of BDSM, it’s important to come up with a BDSM safeword that either of you can use if you feel that things are going too far. The safeword must be a word that you would never use during lovemaking, something like “lollipop” or “pineapple”. By saying this safe word, your partner understands that you’ve reached your limit and that you’d like the activity — and the role-playing — to stop.
So, gentleman’s, let’s start the “how-to” guide on how to dominate your woman. This is The Art Of Rough Sex.
I know that you like to be an alpha man, but let’s start easily, with some gentle domination. Push her against the wall and hold down her wrists. Let your weight against her to create the feeling like you are dominating her body. Grab her breasts and squeeze her ass – “This hot ass of yours is all mine tonight”. After that, run your fingers through her hair and pull gently. Grab her hair so that it forces her to look up at you – “God, I need to be inside of you”
Now, it’s time to be more aggressive. Slap her ass mixing it up – slap, rub it with the palm of your hand, grip it with your hand and then slap it again. Repeat it.”I fucking love your ass”. Then bite her nipples and swirl your tongue around them.
Next step is to go down with your hand and touch her pussy. Play with her clit, while a hand is in her hair, and made her cum. While she is in ecstasy, start to aggressive lick her pussy and insert two fingers into her hot and wet pussy. “Oh, your pussy is so wet! Tastes good.”
Make her taste herself. After you finger her put your finger in her mouth, more fingers to add a bit of choking effect.
That’s the moment that you are waiting for – the BDSM can start!
It’s time to make her pleasure you. Force her on her knees and put her suck you off. “Get on your knees and suck me”. Right away you are telling her what to do, ordering her around, tell her – “You are a good girl”. She exists for your sexual pleasure. She exists to please you.
Call her “a dirty little whore”, but always use pronouns in your own language. Say – “You’re my whore.” Always use my and never a. When you call a girl my whore, she feels good about herself. She feels, as all women desire to feel, wanted and desired and owned by a man. When you call her a whore, she feels fungible and lacks a sense of belonging. Instead of saying – “You enjoy fucking, don’t you, you little slut?”, you should say – “You enjoy fucking me, don’t you?”.
Have sex with clothes on. If she’s wearing a dress (ideal), hike up her dress and fuck her like that. If she has pants, get rid of them. Move her panties aside (but don’t take them off!) and screw her like that.
Tie your lover’s hands and legs.
Tie her to the bedpost or hold her hands firmly with your own hands. The helplessness of the situation could turn both of you on because one of you will be in complete control of the other person. You can also start introducing a dildo at this point.
For many kinky lovers, cutting off the oxygen supply to the brain arouses them to an all-time high. But be very careful here, as you could end up hurting your lover while choking or throttling them. Instead of trying to choke your lover, just place your hands gently on your lover’s neck and massage it just until she feels your pressure.
Tread carefully with this section! At any time she says the safe word, stop immediately. Pay attention to her body language and if it appears like she is not enjoying something or starting to hesitate, stop immediately! Do not continue if you have any doubts whatsoever!
Many of these sessions can be physically, but especially mentally exhausting. So please take care of your partner after the rough sex. Make sure she is okay, make sure you did not overstep your boundaries. Now, continue making love in the shower to entice her more.
Hug, kiss, hold, cuddle her and tell her that you love her!